Children who have been or are being abused do feel alone in the night. They are so afraid, feel ashamed, often times trying to hide within themselves, hoping the monster will disappear. So many have no one to turn to, their cries go unanswered. I know all too well as do many others who have lived with abuse growing up how it feels to live with the “shame.” As children, we felt this shame, as our abuser would often tell us “it’s your fault that this is happening,” what did we know? We were children, the fear that permeated throughout our very soul, kept us prisoner. Silenced, often beaten into silence or told we would be banished from the family unit. So many ways to silence a small child.We need to end the stigma of child abuse, not just during the month of April in the U.S. or October in Canada, but through-out all of the year. Children are a precious gift bestowed on us by our Creator. To love, cherish, guide them on their journey through life. No child should know the feelings of being abused, either sexually, physically or emotionally. They should not live in hell binding them tightly to abuse.
Child Abuse Awareness and Sexual Assault Prevention video to show how we must speak out
**Not all of these paintings of children are abused children, happy to be able to say. There are a few that are very happy, well taken care of and loved children. We do all we can to protect the privacy of those who are being abused.”
All the beautiful Artwork belong to my friend Michal Madison..www.MichalMadisonArt.net/galleries.html…
Words by Mary Graziano
Music and song sung by George Robertson.
video put together by Debbie Naylor Cox
I do own the rights to the Video and the Song
|NAASCA Posters / Essays Celebrating April as National Child Abuse Awareness Month|
|Child Abuse lives everywhere — don’t be afraid to talk about it||
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|Child Abuse lives ..
…... in every community
…... often its a family tradition Sexual assault of children often includes incest.
Incest is sexual contact between persons who are so closely related that their marriage is illegal (e.g., parents and children, uncles/aunts and nieces/nephews, etc.). This usually takes the form of an older family member sexually abusing a child or adolescent.
The victim may be told that what is happening is normal or happens in every family, and doesn’t realize that it is a form of abuse. The youngster may not know that help is available or who they can talk to. Children may be afraid of what will happen if they tell someone, and may also be concerned about how many people will react when they hear about the abuse.
Incest is especially damaging because it disrupts the child’s primary support system, the family.
When the abuser is someone in the family, the family may not be able to provide support or a sense of safety. Since the children (especially younger children) often have limited resources outside the family, it can be very hard for them to recover from incest.
Incest can damage a child’s ability to trust, since the people who were supposed to protect and care for them have abused them. Survivors of incest sometimes have difficulty developing trusting relationships
It can also be very damaging for a child if a non-abusing parent is aware of the abuse and chooses—for whatever reason—not to take action to stop it.
Please see: Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network
A child of abuse is very cautious in trusting an adult. They have been denied to live the life of an innocent, carefree child!! Hiding, in the shadows, as other children are free to be themselves, playing laughing, free spirits. An abused child may often put on that happy face, but it is just a mask, to cover up what is or has happened to them. I know, I was one of those children.
An abused child grows up in an adult world, being subjected to things that they should never know about, that corrupts their mind, body, soul. Trust is often doubtful in the eyes of a child. They are forever changed. Degraded, a “puppet” on their abuser’s string. Caught in a web of lies, decent, shame, being told it’s their fault these things happen to them.
You must slowly earn their trust, lovingly, one step at a time. Letting them know that you are a safe person, even then, that trust is going to take a very long time in coming. They may have been told by their abuser, “I’m a safe person and would never hurt you.” A wounded child, lives with their wounds forever. They are caught in the deep abyss, sometimes unable to ever climb out from the clutches of their abuser.
We must not turn away, we must always believe a child, then help them, not leave them shackled in horrendous abuse!!! Believe, get their trust, call someone, don’t sit idle, don’t pretend it’s not happening. If it were your child, wouldn’t you want someone to be there, let you know what happened or is happening to your child? Take off your blinders, open your eyes to an abused and innocent child!!! Mary Graziano©2016